Coaching with images and pictures

>> 17 June 2009





Been doing some doodling of coaching calls lately...and just did a chart for the upcoming MAPS BOLD class.


I've been drawing my affirmations lately--mostly to connect with them more deeply....and to be able to look at them and recall the emotions of them in a moment when I need them. I've even taken a few clients through a visual coaching exercise with their affirmations.
I'm an early student of this style of coaching and yet, when I first was exposed to it, my spirit recognized it.

On a personal note, I did some self work and realized that for some time, an artistic side of me has been waiting for me because a while back I set it aside to pursue other things. After taking notes, I turned my notes into the image of my angel-ness.

In this world of media and information, technology, more information....everything we are inundated with seems to pile on my brain. I find that being a visual thinker my brain start experiencing just fast flashes of information. This process helps me pull the important content out from all the noise. If the noise gets to loud, I can purposefully draw what I intend to focus on and so the process starts. My question for you is.....what images do you see when you think? What are the pictures that come to your mind when you are structuring your day, or your week or even your life? Are you focusing on thoughts and images that move you forward, or images and thoughts that hold you back? If you could draw exactly what you wanted to focus on, what would you put on the paper?

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Are you Interested or Committed?

>> 16 June 2009


Today on the Couch...we welcome a post from Keller Williams Productivity Coach and ray of sunshine, Monique van Grinsven of White Plains, NW.

Is there a difference between being interested and feeling committed?

Yes. In my opinion, there are lots of things you can be interested in but there are just a few you can be committed to. I am interested in many things but I am truly committed to just a handful. And I devote the time to fulfill those commitments.
I am committed to exercising every single day and will schedule time to do it. I have done it all my life and it became a habit just like brushing my teeth several times a day and spending time with my family. Getting out this newsletter is a commitment, as is my job. I am mindful about what I do in the office every day. I get numerous interruptions which is fine most of the time. When I need to focus on just one thing or person, I shut off my phone and computer and close my door because it is essential that I can't be interrupted. I put everything on hold and instead focus on the person or the project I am working on for the time I allotted to it. I basically shut out the outside world in order to listen, think, brainstorm or whatever it takes to concentrate on the task in front of me.

How do you commit to the task on hand? How good are you at time blocking, organizing your to-do list and actually accomplishing what's on it? Are you just interested or are you committed to get the job done? Do you feel resistance when you start working on your list? If so, do you know why you feel that resistance...is the list unrealistic and looking like you are climbing Mt. Everest without having mastered the little hills first? Are you guilty of letting the computer, an e-mail or an incoming call distract you when you should be committed to a specific task? Here is a suggestion: How about you commit to a small amount of time where you take action without distraction... one step at a time?

Take running a Marathon as an example...it is not possible to do that without taking that initial step first and then committing to a foot, a yard and then a mile at a time. If you truly want to run the 26 plus miles or that half marathon, you fire up your program and add a little more distance each time you run. You find that it gets easier after each mile and soon running becomes a habit and little by little you have gotten strong enough to run for miles. The momentum will carry you to accomplish your goal, to go on and to experience that incredible moment when you cross that finish line. You earned that medal and all the feelings of victory that come with that! Same with lead generating or accomplishing a task....set a goal, start small, commit, make a deal with yourself, get excited, take action and make it a habit ....now let the momentum carry you! Enjoy the journey and keep in mind what it will do for your future, how it will affect your life simply by adding just one new client or accomplishment at a time. Then reward yourself and pat yourself on the back after each little step because you did it... You earned it..it feels GOOD!

I reward myself by going walking. I love going outside and surrounding myself with nature's beauty. I breathe in the fresh air, cherish the color of the sky at sunset, listen to the sounds of nature and feel the wind and sun caressing my skin. I get spiritually, mentally and physically inspired and recharged to accomplish the things I set out to do today and tomorrow.

If motivation is your problem, commit yourself to taking baby steps and tell your family, a friend or me, your coach, about the commitment you made to yourself....then hold yourself accountable by reporting to them and me regularly on what you did, or did not do. Even if you failed, learn from it and take another step today and another one tomorrow and before you know it, everything will begin to flow. Then, you will truly know the difference between being just interested and feeling fully committed.

Done with my newsletter, it's time for a walk!

JUST DO IT!

--Monique

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You are a MAGNET --are you attracting cruddy stuff?

>> 09 June 2009

I'm reminded today about the always present law of attraction. I'm also thankful for the leaders in my life that have pushed me to eliminate limiting beliefs and pay attention to what I attract. Also those that help me with not only mental means of refocusing the energy in my body and mind, but with the physical ways. So before I begin: gratitude for Dianna Kokoszka and MAPS, Tony Robbins (breathe in your heart), Christina Merkley (the process of mapping it out visually), Brian Tracy, and for the many coaches I have worked with. Here is your Magnet: All those little black filaments are the dust and muck and crap you have been attracting. What is the cruddy stuff in your life. Think about today: What is the PRIMARY thought that has gone through your head? Is it one that moves your forward or one that holds you back. Is it one that cleanses your heart or one that weighs it down?

We can easily become consumed with focusing on exactly what we do not want to happen....and the energy of that focus somehow leads us to the EXACT experience we were trying to avoid. Many times the path to what we want..be it a feeling, or a thing, an accomplishment, or experience, and event, a relationship etc...comes only after truly clarifying the END and working backwards.

"FIND THE END FIRST ...then.. .CREATE THE PATH...then... WALK IT."
What exactly is it that you DO want? Use juicy words and pictures....describe it in detail and then visualize it. See it. Feel it. Taste it. Visualize and imagine it as ALREADY in existence. Consider the feelings you are looking forward to having....what thoughts got you to where you wanted to be? Think about the steps that without a doubt in your mind will lead you to the place/thing/experience you want to be/do/have. Get over the limits you think are in your way right now. If it were to happen....HOW would it happen. Write it down. See your self kicking right through-- or side stepping any obstacle that gets in your way. MAKE NO EXCUSES. Brian Tracy says that if ANYONE has done it in-spite of the excuse you just created....then the excuse doesn't exist...and it certainly isn't valid.

Visualize your desired outcome. See it and breathe into it. All of this creates a mind space for your goal. It clears the magnet of your being free of the gritty crud and begins to attract the things you want and the ways to be/do
/have beyond your belief.

I'm getting better at focusing on the things I do want to happen. Clients are coming to me, my houses are selling, my deals are working, money is coming from all directions, I'm focusing on the stuff I want, and feeling the feelings I enjoy having, my life is happening EXACTLY as I want it to. And I want this for you too.

All of these concepts are not new..and I'm glad to be reminded of them. Christina Merkley via Abraham Hicks was the source of the magnet image and creating the attraction map and doing a focus wheel: Here is my focus wheel from a few months ago and I'm working on a new attraction map and will post soon. Just remember....you get what you focus on. What are you focusing on? Is that what you WANT? if not...then change your focus!

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