Need a Quickie?

>> 21 April 2009

Thanks Antonia (one of my great coaching clients) for sending this! May something in this montage wake something up in you and help you to be just a little bit better today, try just a bit harder, work a little bit longer, and give just a little more of your spirit!


I double dog dare you to ask yourself this question?

>> 17 April 2009

This is a guest post from one of the best thinkers and writers I know...My sister. 
Courtney Crow Wyrtzen, I know you are a truly gifted writer, and a deep thinker, and I appreciate your thoughts on being your best. I know many of us struggle with this question...if we are even to really ask ourselves that question. You are brave in asking and the greatest part is, you will find what your best really is! Thanks for letting me reprint your work. 

I have been thinking about this all week since my colleague Rana Reedsposted this video on her Facebook page:

Tears were streaming down my eyes the other day as I watched this. My son was worried since I was crying and that man was screaming but I reassured him that everything was ok. I've had to wonder this week - what is MY very best, my very best

I used to think I knew and I would strive and push for perfection and high output but I would often crash in the end. My results were like fireworks, impressive, colorful, gone in a flash. I enjoyed my results but I often longed to know the feeling of satisfaction that came with sustained results. Slower in coming perhaps - - less impressive maybe, but steady and effective and in its own way - beautiful.

Something else that has frequently tripped me up is if others think I am giving my very best then that was enough - even if deep inside I knew it was not my best. But my successes felt hollow and I knew I could not back them up with repeated results. I can also look the part - dress the "right" way, show up with a fancy hairdo with makeup on (even on a basketball court or track). I have always been thin and pretty and could play nice and follow the rules and write good thank you notes and wear the right clothes to an evening wedding. And somewhere along the way I got the notion that this was what being my very best was all about.

My very best, huh?

I used to be a track star, the very best. I won state titles (ok, little private school state titles but still). But was that my very best? During practice I ran around the bend and sat down with another teammate to chat before we headed back saying we'd run 3 miles to the bridge and back. I smoked and drank and quit the team my senior year. Hardly my very best.

In school I procrastinated and goofed off until the threat of college loomed large and then I got down to business my Senior year and made all A's - my GPA was ok, it could've been better. I applied to one school that didn't even have that great of an academic reputation because I thought that was all I could accomplish. Hardly my very best.

I've put in similar efforts in other areas of my life: work, school, play, marriage, parenting - - and Ive done enough to get by, even be admired by some. But has it been my very best? At least I pulled it off in appearances, right?

Striving is not my very best either. Nor is perfection or presumption or just being professional or courteous for the sake of appearances. 

I have been thinking about my very best all week and at the same time accepting myself for my weaknesses and faults. I wasn't sure what to write in this blog post until yesterday I saw this: Susan Boyle

Susan's very best had nothing to do with all of the outside trappings that I have been so impressed with (things that come naturally to me and to Brock, the team leader in the video above). It had nothing to do with what everyone thought of her before she opened her mouth. It had nothing to do with whether or not they believed in her.

She opened her mouth and she sang and she stunned them all. And she could do it again and again and again if she had to.

I want to find my very best and somehow, by the grace of God, turn it on again and again and again and again. I think I am afraid of that. Maybe afraid I won't find it or afraid I can't live it once I do. I am a bit afraid, but not enough to turn around and run back. Not enough to not try. Not enough to just pretend my very best is unattainable.

Susan Boyle was probably terrified (like Paul Potts before her) and she had little or no support from the people in the room. But she gave her very best and she touched my heart with that and everything else about her. If I could do that then...well then that would be just great.

Hebrews 10:39 But we are not of those who shrink back and are destroyed, but of those who believe and are saved.


Why am I drawing my affirmations this week?

>> 16 April 2009

Why you ask? Because it simply is more fun. More emotional and more creative. And because it takes more time and thought. The more time and thought we put in to what we D0 want, the better! I AM, I ALLOW, I HAVE and I hope you do too!

Rock your day, have fun in whatever you do and share that energy with every soul you contact today!
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How to turn a SUCKY day into a GREAT one

>> 14 April 2009

Do you ever wake up and dread the day? Ever have a day when you just don't FEEL like saying "thank you" as your feet hit the floor? A day when you dread what lies ahead and the tasks on your plate just don't bring satisfaction?

Yeah, Me too.  Today was one of those mornings. STOP.  I refuse to let that morning turn in to a whole day. I CHOOSE to change my mindset immediately. I have things to do and people to visit with. A website to work on and tasks I've committed to accomplish.  

And so here are the steps I took to turn my day around. Numbers 1-3 are personal to me, my own comfort things and so find what soothes you and then, may I recommend, skip to step # 4: 

1.  Deep cleansing breath
2.  Poured my comfort cup of vanilla coffee.
3.  Brian Tracy Success Mastery CD in the background. 
4.  Pad of Paper and a big black sharpie.
a) PAGE 1: Writing affirmations starting with I AM FEARLESS, I AM UNSTOPPABLE.
Affirmations are statements written in the NOW of what you are, what you want, what you have. Focus on EXACTLY what you want and you will bring it into your life.  I realize that too often I speak to myself so unkindly. Do you ever do that?  I'm practicing being kinder to myself in my self talk. I choose for my self talk to be polite, loving, inspiring and helpful.  I'm mean, really, if I were at the buffet of thoughts would I really choose criticism, fear, doubt, etc...?

b) Page 2: Focusing on what I would like to attract in my life over all...I spent some time writing and drawing my vision for myself (thanks to Christina Merkley, the Shift-It Coach, for inspiring me to chart the things I want to MAGNETIZE to myself in this format).  When I focus on my vision and where I am going I am drawn toward that vision.  These are the things I am attracting in my life:
In my heart I have a deep love for myself.  
  My value is my own & I honor & cherish all that I am. 
I have a successful, multi-million dollar business contributing to others growth.
I enjoy close connection, deep partnership and love with my husband We grow together. 
 I am living and juicy and purposeful life that brings deep personal satisfaction & contributes to others. 
I have a strong client list, am enjoying my work and am a well respected coach. 
I am healthy, fit, strong, limber & energetic. I feel great about how I look! 
I am all these things, I have all I desire and I allow these things to be in my life. 

Now, I'm ready! Bring the Day On....
What are your affirmations.....what is your deep vision and what are you attracting in your life? Does focusing on these things give your day back to you in a way that you are excited to live it? This is my hope for you. 


caught doodling at work

>> 08 April 2009

Twitterwander and a search for #MAPS (I was looking for Mega Agent Productivity Systems) led me to @ChristinaMerkley and her SHIFT-IT Coaching site. 
Instantly the little long blond haired child who is also an amazing artist stood up and said, 

  Somewhere along the way I quieted the little artist in me for words and language and other things.  Not sure where I got the idea that I couldn't be creative and professional and now that I am working well and hard and good on the professional coaching side, my creativity is looking for its place.  I say: 

 Most people are visual. Some are auditory and some are kinesthetic.  See, hear, feel/do.  I tend do be equal visual and auditory.  As a speaker and coach, I do all three hoping to engage my clients or audience.  A flip chart or a white board has long been my friend in the class room and even in the individual coaching sessions.  
  A few clients have drawings running around their wallets or pockets--an illustration made from the heart about a direction in which to focus.  Jimmy Longacre even took one of my ideas and professionally illustrated it.  These images stick with us and the feelings they evoke during a coaching session can be pulled up by just looking at the image! 
The view above my computer where I sit many hours is this: 

Across the top are the daily affirmations I use to set my mind in the best possible place. We have to make sure we are telling ourselves the truth. I'm a firm believer in 'Change your thinking, change your life.' --Thanks Brian Tracy.

Below the affirmations are vision boards. These are graphical representations of the EXACT things I want in life, words that resound in my heart, dreams in my heart, the people whom I cherish and even some of the material things I'd like to have someday.  

These tools help me focus on moving forward in life. By rehearsing and practicing my mindset daily with these tools and the other things I put in my mind, I create stronger mindset muscles to help me achieve my goals...and help me through the harder times of life. 

Drawing my affirmations was a new experience for me today and something I choose to continue often.  

I do not claim to be an expert at graphical coaching...I will say that I've been an accidental dabbler with my-markers-and-my-flip-charts-and-my-white-boards over the past two years and now I will most certainly be a student of this amazing and creative way to literally draw out the dreams, and the best in myself and in my clients.  Next step: Training plan.  


The title of the photo "It takes a silly girl to lie about the dreams she has" says it all.

>> 07 April 2009

There is a question I have asked many clients: “If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?”

The answer is scary and fabulous all at the same time for many of us. Our thoughts and beliefs and “everydays” are made up of so many pieces. So many voices and influences, it is often hard to listen to the quiet dreams of our hearts. I know the quiet dreams of my heart, as I am always engaging them and nurturing them.

It takes a silly girl to lie about the dreams she has. (210)

Recently, a moment of past pent up hurt flashed that dream as a better alternative than what that present moment was offering me. In a sensitive moment of feeling completely misunderstood (one of trigger spots I’m working on healing), my reaction was to remove myself from the pain and move toward the pleasure of the dream instantly and without regard for a community I not only belong to but actually, love. Even if the end choice is good, we still have to remember that there is a path to that choice…..and spur of the moment choices can be dangerous for the surrounding hearts. Personal and professional collateral damage.

Question: Is it selfish to --AT TIMES--protect my own heart and values from the damage? I think not. A team is only as strong as the weakest link, they say, I’ve come to believe that being my BEST self helps not only me personally, also all those I come in contact with and those whom I am in relationship with. I spent up to about age 24 NOT taking care of my body, my mind, my heart, my spirit. That certainly didn’t work. Is it really possible to put others first and protect yourself? Aren’t adults capable of taking care of themselves? When does looking out for everyone else steal from one’s own soul?

It is about being true to self. It is about not tolerating a cancer in an otherwise healthy body of this being. Even more than that, it really is about being free to be ALL that I’m am capable and destined to be. It is about expanding my wings and soaring. As a master soul coach, Nigel, spoke with me in February--it is about what is in my heart.

In my heart, I help millions find a deep love for themselves –exactly for who they are—and I help them use that love to become all that they were meant to be for blessing their businesses, for blessing their families, for realizing their dreams, for honoring their spirits—and maybe—for the blessing the world.

It’s just what I do.

Oh and, It’s not about the money.

Yep...I broke a cardinal rule of blogging by posting on 2 sites- -both my personal and professional blogs. Oh well

AMAZING photo called"It takes a silly girl to lie about the dreams she has. (210)" by whatmegsaid under a Creative Commons License.


Adjust your attitude---

>> 03 April 2009

Are you filling your mind with poison or with good stuff? Are you making it easy to make good choices for yourself, or are you making it harder.  Bathed in a better attitude makes it simple to look at things in ways that serve you rather than hinder you! Thanks ZIG ZIGLAR for this message!